If anyone other than my
mother was driving, we cut through the shopping center with the
Farmingdale public library, C-Town (until it went under and reopened as
a different chain grocery), the corner card store, where Grandpa would
buy a one-dollar lottery tickets for us, his young granddaughters, the
jewelry store, and the bakery owned by my grandparents’ neighbor, a
lady who always greeted them with, “How’s Amy? How’s your
mother?” (it sounded like she said, “How-Zamy, howzya mutha?”)
despite the fact that my grandparents had lost their mothers long, long
ago.
This shopping center also
featured Taormina, a wonderful New York pizza place, which I used to
raid for Gino’s chocolate Italian ices, served in the dental cups, so
you could squeeze the ices up after licking the top like an ice cream
cone. There was a dance/karate studio as well as a bar next to Taormina,
and a bank or two. And I almost forgot, Carvel--the ice cream place
that I tossed aside in my adoration of Gino’s Italian ices, which were
a Brooklyn-made wonder not served at Carvel.
When we drove to
Grandma and Grandpa’s house, this center was the ultimate sign that we were there.
We cut through it, driving between the card store and the grocery to
connect to Sullivan Avenue. First
on our right was the dingy yellow house owned by the bakery lady and her
family. About five houses down was the house with two disfigured
horse-head sculptures guarding the driveway, looking as though they had
melted in rain--like relatives of the Wicked Witch of the West. This
house was right next to our destination: the home of Betty and Lenny Seiden.
We saw Grandpa’s gray boat
of a car parked just past the tall shrub that separated the melted
horses from my grandparents’ lawn. Then we turned into the driveway,
parking under the massive ‘diseased’ tree that was a haven for
birds. Tiny bricks, almost
as small as dominoes, divided the driveway such that the middle half was
their pale red, while the surrounding quarters of it were cement.
Exiting the car, my sister and I stretched our scrawny legs, telling
Mom, “We’ll get the suitcases later, after we see Nana and
Pop-Pop!”
During certain summers, we
walked gingerly and tried to see if cicadas were nearby--I dreaded
the crunching sound of stepping on them. Grandma and Grandpa greeted us
at the door, immediately bombarding us with offers of grapefruit,
cantaloupe or honeydew while saying, “Where’s your coat?! You’ll
catch cold!” In we went to
their home, my childhood retreat, where my mother had grown up.
Kara and I hugged and kissed
them, and then someone who had made the trip would dart for the upstairs
bathroom. That bathroom had the shower, a pink toilet, which required
that the user jiggle the handle at exactly the right post-flushing
moment, and a pink sink bowl which--I discovered to my delight--was above a very unique feature: the pull-out door hamper. The knob
appeared to be in the middle at the top of a cabinet door, but when I
tried to open the door by pulling outward to one side, as you would with
a kitchen cabinet, nothing happened. Finally, I pulled the knob toward
me, in a downward motion.
This pull-out hamper, which
was part of the door’s interior, was on par with the equally
intriguing linen closet. Now, their linen closet was not your
run-of-the-mill floor-to-ceiling job. It started maybe four feet above
the floor, with double doors that went to the ceiling. The doors were
slatted like shutters. Once
we were tall enough, we realized we could climb into this wonderland of
light bulbs, soap bars (my grandparents never saw why deodorant soap was
not the best choice for washing one’s hands), towels, sheets, tools,
shoeboxes labeled in Grandpa’s capital letters, flashlights, and more.
It was expansive to our eyes: Kara and I could fit in it together
without difficulty.
The linen closet was across
from the room we shared. The room, the smallest of the three bedrooms,
was painted a powdery blue and had a ceiling fan light fixture. There
was a small chest of four drawers with wood-print contact paper on its
top surface and peeled blue painted drawer knobs the size of our fists
when we were four. Grandma told us that the chest had served as a
changing table for our mother when the room was her nursery.
Kara and I used to fight over who got which drawers, so
eventually Grandma devised a system for alternating pairs of drawers
from visit to visit.
The chest almost completely
blocked the closet door when Kara and I were there, since the day bed
had to be opened. I got the bed that was to the left if you were
standing in the doorway, and Kara’s bed, which folded down to be
stored under mine, was against the opposite wall, maybe sixteen inches
from mine. Each bed had a rust-red bolster against the narrow wall (the
one opposite the door), and Kara and I used to have “bolster fights”
where we would knock each other with them, try to take each other’s
bolster, and giggle with the sheer delight we found in that fun.
I used to lay my bolster
across the river of hardwood floor that was our walkway between beds.
Near where our pillows rested, we had a foldable tray that served
as our night table. I used to have coins, a tissue box, and a book on
it, aside Kara’s earrings and the random things she found in her
pockets.
Later in life, this room,
which had been my mother’s room when she was a baby, served as my
grandma’s office, with her word processor, heavy desk, and tall green
filing cabinet. The walls were decorated with the following: a bulletin
board complete with a note from Millie (“Betty knows all… LIES LIES
LIES”) and a newspaper clipping of my town spelling bee win, a
black-and-white tennis poster that I had memorized since it was near my
head at night (it said things like “An effective lob. An ineffective
lob. Cover yourself with
scraps of net, bruises, anything to indicate to your opponent that you
mean business.”), and a coin counter.
My grandpa’s room had about
forty identically sized carpet scraps, of varying colors, taped
together. He had a large closet, where he kept the videos of the family,
old treasures, and more. He had two large dressers and a headboard unit
that I admired. It had drawers on both sides, bookshelves, and the two
shiny onyx jaguar sculptures that were a staple to their home.
Grandma’s room had her
hospital-style bed, which I loved to play on because I could push remote
buttons to raise and lower different parts of the mattress. I never
asked why she needed a special bed since I was preoccupied with the
mesmerizing bed remote control. She had a striped rug between her bed
and her dresser, and on the inside panel of her door was a mirror. My
mother’s graduation tassels hung from the inner doorknob, a silent
sign that she had occupied that room for awhile. A poster of a teddy
bear in tennis attire, holding a racquet on the court, displayed
Grandma’s prime hobby.
Downstairs was the living
room, as well as the kitchen and dining room. The living room had salmon
furniture with a textured tan print, and it was from sometime before
1966. The super-cool piece of furniture, a corner table nestled between
the loveseat and sofa and below their hanging lamp, had multiple leveled
surfaces for displaying lots of photographs. The secret was that each
level’s top surface opened upward to hide family heirlooms, important
documents, jewelry, the works--which came in handy when my
grandparents’ house was burglarized in the late 1980s.
The dining room held the
buffet, a dark wooden piece with yellow interior visible through
delicate glass door panels. The china, fancy glassware, old spherical
shot glasses, and other special pieces were kept here. Atop the piece
sat the menorah, sculptures, and the bean pot, where my grandpa kept
money and important things. A ledge that was always full of things
mostly divided the dining room and kitchen, offering a place to deposit
car keys and mail after a long day of work. Cookbooks, cassette tapes, a
diet scale and assorted items covered the ledge.
In the kitchen sat a stout
little table, where Grandpa kept bakery boxes of flatcakes (black and
white cookies, to non-New Yorkers) ready for us. Whenever our visit
approached, he reported to the bakery to stock up on flatcakes and onion
rolls, which my sister and mother ate. Aside from the bakery errands were
his grocery store trips. Grandpa’s
fascination with coupons, bargains, and eventually, double coupons was
unparalleled. He had always
managed the household in this and most other ways, so Granma never went
grocery shopping. Packed up
like a little boy with a lunchbox, off he would go, toting his small
shoebox containing the treasured coupons, filed by item. He was content
to drive to three grocery stores in a single day, scooping up the best
deal on chocolate syrup at Pathmark, since he knew my mother needed her
chocolate milk every morning; then heading to C-Town for an
extraordinary bargain on paper products of some sort; and often
succumbing to his thrifty temptations with a trip to National Wholesale
Liquidators, provider of many a tube of French-labeled Colgate.
Clipping coupons was his primary hobby for decades, amplifying
with more available time in retirement.
Box bottoms used to contain
his many pill bottles sat on the table, next to the toaster and blender,
the latter of which we loved to see in use since it meant Grandpa was
preparing iced coffee for us. The countertops had a boomerang print
(orange and brown ones, on a yellow background) which seemed appropriate
only for a diner, and even then, only with better color selections.
An aluminum dispenser on the yellow paneled wall held paper
towels, foil, and plastic wrap with embossed letters indicating which
would come out of a particular slot. The old fridge was brown, the shade
of a brown M&M candy left in the car for a month. It was divided
vertically, which fascinated Kara and me since at home we could not
reach the freezer.
Downstairs, reached by the
door off the dining room, was the playroom. A Linoleum floor of green
and gray squares offered visions of our mom at ten, twelve, fourteen
years of age, having parties and dancing there with friends. A twin bed
sat near two of the windows offering a glimpse of the backyard; that bed
was only used near the end of their time in the house, when my Grandpa
slept there on our visits so that Mom could have his bed.
From the playroom was a door to the cellar (musty with old
televisions, boxes of records, suitcases, and an old Chinese furniture
cabinet), a door to the sea-foam green (yes, even the sink and toilet)
bathroom, and a door to the laundry room, otherwise known as Lenny’s
superstore. Every time we packed the car to leave their home for ours,
Grandpa would send us out with hoards of cans of food, packages of paper
products, soap, detergent, pasta, Brillo pads, and condiments, all
fruits of his favorite labor: grocery bargain-hunting.
From the laundry room, we
could use a back door to go to the backyard--lush with green grass that itched my feet when I was little, so
much so that my family had to put paper plates under my feet. The lawn was
expansive, fenced only with tall, flowering shrubs. A path of hard
mustard and rust squares led us to their shed, home to rusted bicycles,
garden tools, and pool toys and accessories from before the above-ground
pool’s collapse. (When my
mother was a child, she would ask to go on vacation, always receiving
the response, “We have one--the pool out back.”)
The backyard haven was the venue for many a game of badminton,
most of which were rather wretched since my odds of achieving racquet
contact were very slim.
Whether we were in the yard,
using the playroom treadmill (under adult supervision until age
fourteen, since Grandma insisted, “You’ll fall off!”), watching
television in the living room, sipping iced coffee at the sun-colored
boomerang kitchen counter, groaning about no water pressure in the pink
bathroom shower, or reading in our powdery blue guest room, my
grandparents’ home was a haven of respite.